Female Safe Spaces
And other lies
From Sexual Health Alliance.com:
“Heterofatalism is the all too common confession by often straight women (but also straight men) that heterosexuality is embarrassing, hopeless and imprisoning. This is coupled with the performative disaffiliation with heterosexuality and straight culture. The term was coined by Asa Seresin in 2019 in their excellent article “On Heteropessimism.”
I wrote about how frustrated I was by my male partners not reciprocating oral sex, about how they will thoughtlessly neglect my sexual pleasure because of cultural expectations of men and women. But, honestly, nothing makes my heterofatalism kick up more than listening to women talk about female only spaces.
Not just talk about the feminized spaces, but romanticize them. It’s tempting to think that these women, these High Value Females ™, are simply closeted lesbians, unable to acknowledge that they are attracted to women because it would be socially problematic for them. Instead they make up excuses to be alone with their best female friends and just ‘girl out’, or ‘refresh their feminine energies’.
But I’m beginning to think that the majority of these women are straight.
They are straight and have properly internalized the fetishized female form, or what they refer to as “Divine Femininity". They cleverly craft narratives about their “true female nature”, setting the boundaries between real and fake women, then building walls and demanding that they be guarded. They demand to be guarded by primarily men to stop other penis-having people from invading their lady enclosures, insisting that the only reason a penis would dare crossover is for sexual gratification (usually by force, of course, of course).
The men guarding them is an important component to the cis female only spaces. In fact, I theorize that it is the most important aspect of their enthusiasm for female seclusion. By giving boys the sacred task of protecting females, High Value Females ™ condition them to become sexually neurotic men in the guise of White Knights.
High Value Females ™ rely on sexually neurotic men not just for guarding, but also to raise their social and economic status simply by being sexually attractive. High Value Females ™ using men in this way have conditioned their sex drive to be purely for rewarding men and not gratifying themselves, which leads them to have lower sex drives. This is helpful in many ways because it allows them sexual leverage, able to walk away from negotiations much easier than a sexually frustrated male. Coupled with the masculine identity relying on sexual virility and voracity, men, and especially young men, feel helpless but to give as much money and effort to the High Value Female ™.
It is no surprise that birth control is the natural enemy of High Value Females ™. This is what Sarah E Hill wrote in her book “This is Your Brain on Birth Control”:
Although women generally move from the dating market to the marriage market once the education goals have been attained, most men are in less of a hurry to do this. This is because men’s psychology has been wired in such a way to desire sexual novelty for its own sake to a greater degree… So for every woman who enters the marriage market, there are fewer men. And when you combine this with the fact that men are also achieving less than ever before in history, it creates a situation in which women are finding that they have to cut some pretty crappy deals if they want to get married. (Hill, 2019, p. 208)
That’s right, she said that men were achieving less than ever before in history despite the fact that we are only getting more and more productive as technology advances. But that’s not what Mrs. Hill means. She means that women, real women, want to marry a man that is achieving manly man status. And you can’t achieve manly man status if you're sexually satisfied, so those Low Value Females who like sex for sex sake are terrible, awful, unclean creatures, distracting you. Don’t you know that if a female ‘knows their worth’ then she doesn’t want to have sex with you?
This is the classic High Value Female ™ tactic.
They tell men that the harlots, the bitches, the sluts, the whores, the cunts, the feminists are trying to steal from you, your soul, your dignity, your self worth, your achievements. They will tell you that transwomen are dangerous groomers because they fear women who were not raised since birth to be ashamed of their sexuality. The High Value Females demand that good men stop the indecency, to protect their sensibilities, to save their purity.
They tell boys these lies so they are cut off emotionally from women, lonely and desperate for human contact, and see women as sexual objects that have to be purchased before entry. They do this in order to keep control over the sexual marketplace, to funnel all the attention and status to the top of the pyramid that they and patriarchy created together.
So if you're a woman that demands female only spaces, especially cis female only spaces, then I think you should seclude yourself from public life. In fact, you should find somebody with a strong hand to keep you safe and away from people; somebody to take away your computer and your phone so you don't get triggered by the scary world. Anybody that romanticizes feminine safe spaces isn't a person capable of the kind of rational thinking needed to participate in society without supervision.
Just keep silent, go back to the kitchen, and make me a sandwich.